Tuesday, July 12, 2011

Second Honeymoon (and Third, Tenth, Thirtieth, etc.)

It has become the time of year for my husband me to plan our anniversary trip. We so love to get away with just one another, and it feels like it has been forever!

According to Danny Akin, in his book, God on Sex, recreational companionship is a man's third most important need. Men connect through activity, not just through talking the way that women do. It is so important to have fun with your husband, to do many of the activities you did when you were dating, to remember what made you fall in love in the first place! We should do all of this on a regular basis, but I believe it can be very upbuilding in our marital relationships if we can seek out time on a yearly basis to get away from home somewhere alone together.

We haven't been able to do this perfectly in our nine years of marriage. Nursing a baby for a year at a time every eighteen months to two years can put a kink in that. Instead, we've often had to take time as soon as a baby is weaned or before a baby is born to take a vacation together.

If you think that you can't afford to take trips alone at least once a year, you should know that part of the fun is the dreaming, planning, and saving together in order to achieve even just one night away. Right now, my husband and I have already made our hotel reservations for our destination, but we are having fun researching places to visit and restaurants we would like to try. These are something like mini-dates for us.

As you create memories together on your trip, taking pictures helps in the time between vacations. You can look back during busier seasons of your lives and remember the fun you had together.

While teaching about this in a marriage revival we had with our church a while back, one of the ladies with an empty nest said, "Why do we need to take a trip together when we see each other alone all the time?" to which I responded - There's something extra special about going away so that the ordinary tasks of being at home will not hinder you from focusing on one another. If you don't yet have children or if your children are grown and gone, still remember that you won't have to clean house while you're away from home or even answer phone calls if you choose not to turn on your cell phone. You will be able to completely focus on one another and your marriage!

Give it a try, y'all! See what wonders it does for you!

I'm linking up here:


Jennifer Dawn McLucas said...

Great reminder! I know my husband and I look forward to our anniversary trip for months, even if it's just a short trip to the coast. There really is something special about getting away for a special day. :)

Erin said...

That's one thing that we have NEVER missed since we have been married - we always go away for at least one night for our anniversary. It's an awesome time to relax and rejuvenate as a couple! :)