Thursday, August 2, 2012
Change is Inevitable
Last week, my husband and I celebrated our tenth wedding anniversary! We couldn't believe how time has flown by so quickly. While taking a week-long break from our kids, thanks to the generosity of one of their aunts and their Granna, we reflected on the changes in our lives since we said "I do".
Gulf Shores, Alabama (which we took by storm celebrating our anniversary)
We are very different from those star-eyed young'uns we were ten years ago. We've had some knocks that have grown us more Christ-like. More time out of our parents' nests has made us do things "our way" (though there was nothing wrong with the way either set did life). Essentially, we became who we are - Clint and Lauren.
Sadly, "he's/she's not the same person I married" is something we might hear from folks deciding to divorce. It is heartbreaking to think that rather than growing together in marriage, many grow apart. Change will happen, whether we want it to or not, so it is in our best interest (and in the interest of the little people who depend on us) to cultivate growing together.
I mentioned this last year, but I've learned it bears repeating. Get away together! Overnight. Once a year. If possible. Make it possible!
Embrace and encourage each other's interests. I now watch Nascar - who'd have thunk that ten years ago! My husband helps keep my flower beds mostly free of weeds, and he cheers for me when I run, and he receives his just reward.
Be realistic, and learn to love the physical changes that come with time. I actually really like the mature look my husband is beginning to have - maybe it's because I haven't watched Magic Mike or soap operas throughout our marriage. Encourage your husbands to have realistic expectations of beauty after multiple children by remaining physically available to him so he might not struggle so much with lust or possibly pornography.
"This is why a man leaves his father and mother and bonds with his wife, and they become one flesh." -Genesis 2:24
The one flesh relationship God created can still be just as beautiful in your marriage as it was in the beginning. I'm happy for the changes in my marriage and pray the same for yours!